Breaking up is hard to do! (That’s a lovely lyric from my favorite singer, Karen Carpenter).

This is a bitter pill to swallow. Nobody loves to talk about it because it sucks and it hurts during the process of breaking up. I can only imagine, you just cut ties from the person you loved for months, years, and you spent amazing memories together during your journey. But at some point, there is a stop, a halt and a change of heart. Reasons varies from one couple to the other. I know it really hurts. It hurts like a knife. In fact, you don’t even know where the pain comes from. Yet how do you keep your head up high during this winter, dreary, yucky, “rainy” season of your life? I have been to that heartbreak village. It took me weeks, months, even years to get back to the swing of things. And it seems like every day is a rainy day, you can’t seem to see the light of day and no energy to go on. Take heart, chicky! That is part of life. You have to learn the lesson and get to know more about yourself and what it is that you truly love from a man instead of wallowing in self-pity or blaming yourself because it didn’t work.

This might sound brutal if you are going through a tough time yet the only way for your mind to get my message is that I’ll send you through shock waves of absolute honesty. No babysitting here, sister. There is always a reason why things happened at the time. First of all, you are not alone. That’s one fact. It feels good to know that you are not the only one suffering, eh? For some reason, humans mastered this characteristic. It is a very familiar emotion that we all can relate to. So, we both understood the pain, the loss, the WTF am I going to do next, right? May I invite you to have a little tea with me and let’s start talking about how you can stay positive despite this painful trial you are going through? Yes? Thanks. Alright my friend, here’s a sister’s two cents. If you allow me, I can give you a few loving and positive suggestions that will open the portal of your mind to think differently and most of all, positively. Capiche?

First of all, smile that it happened. Why? Because, if you are honest about the whole process, you just learnt how to love that special someone and spent an amazing time with them. Count the wonderful things you did. If you gave your all at the time, you rock it girl/dude! You did it. I know this might not be what you are expecting to hear, my dear. Sorry to disappoint you. Remember, we agreed about this in on our conversation above. Right now, let’s focus on how you can stay positive and become a better version of yourself despite your “broken heart,” sweet pea.

Second of all, now that the Universe has cleared your path and is preparing you for greatness, there is another requirement that is needed of you. Drum roll please…Decision time. Yes, darling. It is time to decide on who you want to be. How do you want to live and what can you do with your amazing God-given talents? Start where you are. That’s it. You have to start picking up the pieces and rebuild your life. It could be worst right? After all, when you look back you can say that you gave everything even it wasn’t perfect at the time. You can only give what you have. Stop blaming yourself or the other person for Pete’s sake. It takes two to tango. Recall a very bad patch in your life where you were able to overcome it all and you felt like Incredible Hulk. You did it my dear. You survived. No scratch. Scars? A ton. However, your scars are what make you look so irresistibly sexy. You fought like a gangster. That means you are pretty strong. Meaning you can do this again. You can fail a thousand times which is normal as long as you are working on becoming the best version of yourself and not giving up or being eaten alive by guilt, misery and blame. Beauty for your ashes.

Now that you are finished with one chapter and you know what you want to be or do. What is next you ask? Well, simply put get out there and live your best life. Enjoy a few months of being unattached. No cares about the world but focus on loving your sexy, bad ass self, meet new friends, travel and see the world and be curious. Try new things that you haven’t done before. Do you like to sky dive? Go for it as long as you have the right savings and hire a certified diving instructor, why not? Do you love to paint? Do it. Is writing your passion? My goodness, take all your unfinished story and put a happy ending to it. Do anything you love before your time here on earth is over. Just do it. Follow your intuition and be in alignment to your true authentic self. Remember, you are not alone on your walk. You have every help you need. Just ask and be open to receive guidance and help.

Have fun with your journey and you will be amazed at how far you have gone. You are amazing.

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